As an introvert, knowing the difference between when I felt too anxious to speak and when I didn’t want to speak changed my life.
My anxiety disorder kicked in at the age of 16.
But before that, I was always quite a shy and introverted child. I would often retreat into myself. My mum always used to say, ‘I know when there is a problem with Emma because you wouldn’t hear from her all evening whereas her sister won’t shut up!’
And my difficulties always lay in being unable to speak.
To use my voice to tell people what I…
Success is on the tip of everyone’s tongues.
The world is starting to wake up and discover that there is more to life than we originally thought. We’re starting to understand that we all have the potential to really make something of ourselves.
Aspiring artists, writers, musicians, and entrepreneurs worldwide have all the information they could ever need to make a success of themselves at their fingertips.
Everywhere we turn there is a new podcast episode from our favourite millionaire explaining their journey and encouraging us to do the same, and this is great.
With the potential available to us…
There is absolutely nothing that you cannot learn from the right author who has written the right book. And, as a self-improvement junkie, I’ve read my fair few.
And sure enough, some of these books I do actually consider to be life-changing.
The biggest obstacle to overcome is being able to implement what you’ve read. Because reading in itself is easy, right? You might bob through it and have a few ‘aha!’ moments but it’s only once you’re finished that you can use it to make a significant change.
So some people do poo-poo books (which is absolutely ridiculous and…
There’s a lot of things a strong relationship is able to overcome and power through; the death of a loved one, financial crisis, hefty compromises, trouble in the bedroom… and so on.
Yet, there is something that can be the death of a relationship that goes seemingly undetected until it’s all too late — indifference.
I asked my ex-partner, “Where are you going?”
“To the quiz with my work friends”
“Oh, I didn’t realize”
“It’s Tuesday, I go every Tuesday”
He slipped into his coat and shot out the door as he did every Tuesday for the past year. I…
Do you ever catch yourself feeling envious, wishing that you had something of someone else’s?
And then, do you retreat under feelings of shame and embarrassment wishing you could be a bigger, better person? Wishing you weren’t so ‘weak’ as to feel these debase feelings of envy?
Jealousy has been wrongly grouped into the category of ‘bad emotions’ along with shame, anger, and sadness. It can easily make us feel like a bad person. So bad, that it’s very rare you hear someone openly admit, “Gosh, I’m so jealous. I wish I had that!”
We couldn’t possibly say that OUT…
Do you have a habit of overreacting to your partner's behaviors?
Do you recognize this in yourself?
When you know that you have a habit to overreact, there’s an internal battle between understanding what was justified and what was blown out of proportion.
The lines between what was an acceptable response and what was utterly insane become blurry and indistinguishable.
Insecurities and anxiety can make us respond irrationally to seemingly small triggers. In fact, if you’re anything like me, you might often beat yourself up thinking that no-one would want to stick with this level of crazy. …
Have you ever tried your hand at acting?
Alright, have you ever had sex?
Now, we’re getting somewhere. One more…
Do you and your partner have GREAT sex? Is there a beautiful connection that cannot be expressed in words, does the time pass in the blink of an eye, are you left feeling as though no-one knows you better, loves you more, and lusts after your body the way they do?
Great sex doesn’t mean having it 10 times a week. It doesn’t mean that you scream the house down and wake the neighbors with every romp. …
I love the placebo effect.
To this day, even as a firm believer of mind over matter, I still can’t quite believe how much power the mind has over the body. And, how brilliant these spongey things onside our heads can actually be.
They can make a highly anxious individual can experience symptoms that mimic that of a heart attack. It is not uncommon to speak to anxiety sufferers and listen to them express the belief that they were dying. I know, I am said sufferer.
And then there is the unstoppable power of belief.
Do you ever consider why…
Various studies worldwide have shown the prevalence of insomnia in 10%–30% of the population, some even as high as 50%–60%. It is common in older adults, females, and people with medical and mental ill health — Journal of Family Medicine and Primary Care
I admit it. I can be a tad judgmental.
It’s something I’m working on, I promise. A quality that I don’t wish to possess but that I recognize in myself. The type-A personality and perfectionist in me has such a degree of self-loathing that judging others is easier… that's what I tell myself anyway.
My latest misjudgment…
Have you got an idea of what your dream life looks like?
Profound questions like, “What does your perfect life look like?” have plagued me ever since I decided to strive for something more. The reason is that it can feel like torment.
To sit and mull over what an ideal existence might look like; how it feels, tastes, and smells, when you feel as though you are so far away from it can be painful.
But what if you didn’t realize that you are in fact, living that life that you always wanted?
Perhaps, you don’t realize that you’re…